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Please forgive my absence, I've been super busy and super sick! I will have a post updating you on all that is the life of B very soon! In the meantime, I'm starting to get ready for festival season! Sorting through pieces in my wardrobe, culling, eyeing-off new pieces online - it's my favourite time of year! My Buffalo x Solestruck glitter sandals arrived today - SO excited to get them onto my footsies and show them off! I truly believe a statemenet shoe such as these can be worn with anything - they are meant to clash. What do you think? Hope all is well wherever you are xxx
More often than not, our external environment is a reflection of our internal state. If we live in mess and clutter, this is an indication that our mind and spirit are misaligned and are in a state of chaos.
Stagnant energy is a result of clutter - negative energy which traps you in the past, preventing you from attaining your goals and progressing towards a satisfying future.
We often disassociate ourselves from the word 'clutter,' as we have become conditioned to affiliate clutter with hoarders and collectors. This is not the case, clutter is not just physical but also emotional excess which weighs down our mental state. Holding onto mementos from past friendships and relationships, old clothes which you no longer fit into, trinkets that gather dust on your window sills - this sort of clutter prevents the movement of positive vibrations around you.
We may convince ourselves that hiding our clutter in boxes under the bed or at the back of our wardrobes is clearing space and effective, but why are we holding onto these objects 'just in case.' The energy still looms because we know the clutter is still there. See how often your reach into one of these boxes over a four week period - any objects that you fish out you can find a prominent home for - everything else should be eliminated. A clear living space = a clear, serene state of mind.
By all means it is important to 'decorate' and 'beautify' our surroundings, but material objects are not necessarily conducive to self-fulfillment and 'meaningful' objects that remind of us negative experiences are sure to repress the best version of ourselves. Our surroundings should inspire us to dream and to accomplish these dreams, but they should also serve us as a retreat to reflect on our self-improvement.
This weekend I had quite a confronting realisation - I am settling for less than I deserve in some of my friendships. As I mulled over this little epiphany (two bottles of wine worth of mulling), endless examples of people I knew who were settling for less in their jobs, friendships and relationships dawned on me.
In all other areas of our lives, when an object does not serve it's intended purpose, we dispose/return/resell/let it sit in the back of the cupboard never to be seen again. We don't fully immerse ourself into said object and become so consumed by it that we grow to resent it. So why do we let jobs and relationships that don't set our world on fire make us miserable?
When it comes to relationships, the inherent reason must be fear. We fear rejection. We fear being alone. We fear confrontation and hearing about all the 'inadequacies' in our personalities. We are so scared that there won't be another suitable job, another friend, another lover that we just make do and settle with a mundane relationship and a job that is a chore.
Oh, and did I mention we're lazy? Our generation has grown up having everything always handed to them. If a job with a six-figure salary/mega-babe that ticks all our boxes doesn't just fall into our laps, we will make do with what we have because it is safe and just continue to hope that without actively looking for it, it will come.
As soon as we settle, we become complacent. When we are complacent, we fail to strive towards improving our lives. When we find ourselves in a rut as a result, we blame and resent ourselves for settling for as long a time as we have.
If you're not happy, leave.
And yeah.
